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  • Two Weeks Left

    Two Weeks Left

    We are in our last two weeks living in Playa del Carmen. In a little over a week the movers will be here, and after that we will head to Querétaro. Lately, our days have been spent going through things, deciding what still belongs with us and what has quietly finished its time. That part…

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  • Lower-Risk Engagement

    Lower-Risk Engagement

    Things are unsettled right now. That is not a political statement. It is an observable reality. Situations escalate faster than they used to. Authority is exercised unevenly. Explanations often come later, if they come at all. That reality changes how responsible people need to think about engagement in everyday life. This is not about telling…

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  • Cruelty doesn’t look like a monster.

    It looks like people we recognize. I keep coming back to this because cruelty rarely announces itself as something obvious or extreme. Most of the time, it shows up quietly, carried by ordinary people defending it. Neighbors justifying harm, violence, even death, as long as it’s aimed at someone they’ve decided is in the way.…

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  • Standing Witness

    I need to say this from a personal place. I am a writer, and with that comes a responsibility to share things in the most straightforward way possible. Writers are the recorders of history. I would much rather be sharing thoughts on the paranormal than writing this. Yesterday, when I watched that man die, killed…

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  • Before We Name It

    Before We Name It

    I have been sitting with a question for a while now, and the longer I sit with it, the less interested I am in answering it and the more interested I become in why it keeps showing up, again and again, in such recognizable ways. Across history and across cultures, people have talked about moments…

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  • Haunted Lives, Deserving Humility

    There is something I have been watching happen again and again in paranormal spaces, and it worries me more now than it ever did before. It is not the unexplained that concerns me. It is what people do to one another in the name of explaining it. When people reach out for help, they are…

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  • The Roman Forum, a place haunted by death, history and something darker. Hell.

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  • Did We?

    You know, they say every generation of LGBTQ+ people stands on the shoulders of the accomplishments of the one before it. That is true, at least in part. And yet lately, it can feel as if we have faltered some along the way. I catch myself in those darker hours of the night, when sleep…

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  • Understanding Constitutional Safeguards

    What does it take to remove a sitting president in the United States.

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  • Mexico, the Right Way

    Mexico, the Right Way

    I get asked a lot how you move to Mexico. My answer is always the same. The right way. And I do not mean that casually. The right way means you follow the rules and the laws of the country you are choosing to live in. You get proper residency. You use the correct visas.…

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