#bornthisway
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December 2017. The air smelled like the holidays and pine needles. We stood in a room full of people who’d fought for us, cried for us, waited for us. My hands shook holding the marriage license—a piece of paper I never thought I’d get to sign. Seven years later, I still remember the way my
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“You are safe with me.” Those are words that matter a lot right now, especially when we’re surrounded by so much hate and fear. It’s tough for some folks to remember what it was like when our government was actively against us, when simply being who you are put you in danger. They might not
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I’ve spent much of my life thinking about silence—not the quiet of a library, but the kind that erases people. Growing up gay in the 1960s meant navigating a world determined to mold me into something I wasn’t. My interests in films like Valley of the Dolls or West Side Story were dismissed as unserious,
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Let’s talk about the so-called gay agenda. For decades, this phrase has been weaponized to paint LGBTQ+ lives as some shadowy plot to corrupt society. But peel back the fearmongering, and what’s really there? Grocery lists. Date nights. Arguing over whose turn it is to take out the trash. Sound familiar? That’s because the “gay
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To those reading this in 2025, I write with a heaviness in my heart and soul that feels both familiar and newly urgent. The past nine years have tested our collective resolve as an LGBTQ+ community in ways many of us feared but dared not fully imagine. With the return of Donald Trump to the
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These two things, pictured in the above photo, seem to set the far right off more than anything else right now. Both are facts. One is rooted in science, the other in history. Both are straightforward in the truths they reveal. So why do these two things bother them so much? Out of all the
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January 29, 2025 Dear Reader, I’ve been struggling to write about anything other than the atrocities unfolding in the world right now. But nothing feels right—not even humor. There’s a part of me that wishes we could rewind to 2015, to a time when the weight of this chaos didn’t hang over us. But we
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The saddest part of all this queer hate happening on the national stage right now is the children who are silently and secretly watching people they love hate them for who and what they are. I’ve seen the hateful right claim that children don’t understand sex at a young age and that if they think
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You know, it’s funny how so many folks were caught off guard by the election results. Personally, yeah, I was let down, no doubt about it. But shocked? Not really. I mean, as a gay man pushing sixty, I’ve pretty much seen it all when it comes to human behavior. Living as a gay man,
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This memory resurfaced today from a conversation with my husband in 2016. He first proposed to me, and my immediate response was a firm “No.” Why? Because I didn’t want to give hateful people one more thing to hold over my head. I didn’t want to give them that power. Rick and I talked about
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