Steven LaChance Blog

This a serious question about homophobia. If you are going to hate us at least have a good reason, but first this.

In so many ways, our life as a gay married couple is just like any other marriage. We wake up, eat breakfast, and get to work in our office. We take a lunch break, catch up on the news, and sometimes bake something sweet for dessert. In the afternoon, we rest or nap, then get up and work out before having a snack. Evenings are spent cooking dinner, watching our favorite shows, and winding down before bed. We worry about our kids and grandkids. We plan trips. We run errands, get haircuts, go out to eat, and see movies. Nothing radical. Nothing subversive. Just life.

But in some ways, our marriage is better. In a gay marriage, there’s no built-in expectation of traditional roles—everything is equal. No one is stuck doing everything; it’s a true partnership. And we love fiercely because we remember what it took to get here. We fought for this, and that makes us value it even more.

So why the hate? Why do people still act like our love is a threat? It makes no sense. We’re just living our lives—just like you.