Steven LaChance Blog

Let’s talk about the so-called gay agenda. For decades, this phrase has been weaponized to paint LGBTQ+ lives as some shadowy plot to corrupt society. But peel back the fearmongering, and what’s really there? Grocery lists. Date nights. Arguing over whose turn it is to take out the trash. Sound familiar? That’s because the “gay agenda” is just… life. And guess what? It looks a lot like yours.

When conservatives clutch their pearls about the “gay agenda,” they imagine something radical and subversive. But here’s the truth: my life as a gay man isn’t a manifesto. It’s about building a home, paying bills, and binge-watching Netflix with my partner. Our relationships aren’t a political statement—they’re ordinary, messy, and deeply human. We want what everyone wants: love, security, and maybe a decent Wi-Fi connection.

If our lives seem “different,” it’s only because society still treats them as taboo. But spend a day in our shoes, and you’ll find the rhythms of our days mirror yours. We’re just trying to exist without apology.

Now, let’s get candid about sex—because here’s where the hypocrisy gets glaring. Straight men love to joke (or whisper) about anal sex. In fact, studies suggest 43% of heterosexual men have tried anal intercourse with a female partner, though researchers suspect the real number is much higher. Let’s be real: Anyone who’s overheard locker-room banter or late-night bro confessions knows this isn’t just a “gay thing.”

Yet, when same-sex relationships are discussed, anal sex is weaponized as something “deviant” or “other.” But if it’s so taboo, why are so many straight men quietly curious—or actively indulging? The difference isn’t desire; it’s stigma. Gay men are labeled “predatory” for openly discussing what straight men do behind closed doors.

Here’s the kicker: Gay men aren’t oblivious to this double standard. We’ve been listening. We’ve been watching. We notice the winks between straight buddies at the bar, the jokes about “backdoor adventures,” and the way some men’s eyes linger a little too long on certain taboos. And let’s not forget the any port in a storm crowd—the ones who’ll dabble in same-sex encounters when it’s convenient, only to retreat into heteronormativity by morning.

The irony? Many of these men are the same ones voting against LGBTQ+ rights or dismissing our relationships as “too sexualized.” But your secret’s out: The line between “straight” and “queer” desire isn’t as rigid as you pretend.

This isn’t about shaming anyone’s bedroom preferences. It’s about calling out the absurdity of judging others for what you quietly crave yourself. If straight men stopped policing queer lives and started confronting their own hang-ups, we’d all be better off.

The truth is, humanity’s desires are vast, complicated, and often contradictory. But love and intimacy—in all their forms—are universal. So why keep pretending we’re so different?

The “gay agenda” was never about recruitment or corruption. It’s about the right to live authentically, without fear or shame. And guess what? That’s an agenda everyone can get behind—gay, straight, or anywhere in between.

So next time you hear someone rant about the “gay agenda,” remind them: It’s just life. And if they’re honest, they’ll admit they want the same things we do—to love openly, laugh freely, and maybe, just maybe, stop sweating the small stuff.

The more we acknowledge our shared humanity, the harder it becomes to justify bigotry. Let’s stop “othering” each other and start listening. After all, the straight guy at the bar might have more in common with me than he’d ever admit.